Bynum loves husband but needs to move on

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Hat Tip: D. Aileen Dodd, Atlanta Journal Constitution

Evangelist Juanita Bynum’s lawyer said Monday the pastor is seeking to divorce her husband on the basis of cruel treatment and irreconcilable differences.

The divorce filing states that the marriage has been “irretrievably broken,” said Bynum’s attorney Karla Walker of Valdosta, Ga.

by her husband Thomas W. Weeks III on Aug. 21 in a hotel parking lot near Hartsfield-Jackson International Airport.

“She loved her husband,” Walker said. “But she does feel it is necessary to stop the domestic violence and go on with the divorce.”

The divorce paperwork was sent to the Ware County Courthouse early last week, but an error delayed the filing. The legal documents were officially filed on Monday.

Bynum, 48, spent the weekend in California where she attended a fund-raiser for presidential candidate Barack Obama. The party was held at Oprah Winfrey’s estate.

Bynum has said she is moving forward with plans to start a domestic violence ministry. Last week, she resurfaced in the spotlight, saying she had recovered from the alleged attack and would like to serve as an advocate against domestic violence.

Weeks, 40, was charged with felony aggravated assault, felony terroristic threats and two counts of simple battery in connection with the attack. He could face up to 27 years in jail if convicted.

19 thoughts on “Bynum loves husband but needs to move on

  1. Truster Beauty Chikoore

    If God says he hates divorce i believe it should be final. Prophetes Juarnita has to rule out divorcing her husband, was he not God given, because He was God given then i believe she should have gone back to God long back with what was going on in her marriage. I believe its a sign of being too busy to attend to one’s problems and deal with them before they have erupted. There has to be balance please God clearly put an order That it has to be 1) God first 2) Family 3) Ministry and the list goes on, I really a lot of us are confusing Ministry and God and putting Ministry first. Lets honour God with our family, A Family is a simple of the Church so lets respect it.

    Before the Domestic Violence Ministry starts please may the Prophetess hear from God, it should not be rashed, She has to forgive first and really whatever follows should be from a pure heart, not a bitter otherwise it create more problems than serving the right purpose.

    I love you Prophetes I was really looking forwad to Invite you to Zimbabwe

    Sister in Christ

  2. There is nothing in the Bible that says Juanita has to condone getting beat up by her husband in order to obey God’s Word.

    Sometimes, the Lord does bring two people together in holy matrimony – most times, the people themselves are getting together and then trying to use God to clean up their getting together by getting married. Unless both are saved and committed to Christ, there’s going to be unbalance in the relationship.

    I believe both are saved, but Bishop Weeks wasn’t as committed to living his life for Jesus as Juanita was, because I truly believe if homeboy was walking with the Lord, putting his hands on his wife would have been UNTHINKABLE for him to even conceive of doing so.

    When he stomped her, he literally stomped out any chance of their marriage being reconciled, so he should just confess to his god, and go do the time, while he gets counseling to deal with his inability to manage his anger.

    Reconciliation = Getting back on the Gravy Train, and Juanita’s not having it.

  3. rikyrah, political junkie,

    I am extremely skeptical about the nature of this marriage and the books and tapes they produced about it. The ostentatious manner in which they married and then the marketing of their marriage in books and tapes seems in poor taste now. The divorce seems like a blessing now because from the outside looking in, these people didn’t have any business being together. I have stayed silent about most of this and just simply watched it play out. I’m glad the marriage is over, if for no other reason than Juanita is safe from her husband’s physical abuse.

  4. rikyrah, political junkie,

    I am extremely skeptical about the nature of this marriage and the books and tapes they produced about it. The ostentatious manner in which they married and then the marketing of their marriage in books and tapes seems in poor taste now. The divorce seems like a blessing now because from the outside looking in, these people didn’t have any business being together. I have stayed silent about most of this and just simply watched it play out. I’m glad the marriage is over, if for no other reason than Juanita is safe from her husband’s physical abuse.

    SB,

    I definitely hear you, and I understand your ‘Skeptical’ in this, because it is warranted.

    For me, it breaks down like this.

    I asked the question and nobody seemed to have wanted to answer it:

    WHO MEETS IN A HOTEL PARKING LOT?

    All I could come up with is:
    1. Criminals
    2. Secret Lovers
    3. Hotel employees

    I’d like someone to explain to me why a MARRIED COUPLE ….IN THEIR HOMETOWN….would be meeting in a parking lot.

    Could it be because SHE WAS AFRAID TO BE ALONG WITH HIM IN PRIVATE?

    Ding Ding Ding…we have a winner.

    Folks talking about Christianity, and forgiveness…she can forgive him all she wants, but that DOES NOT mean that she’s supposed to put herself in THAT position again.

    Women who aren’t afraid of their husbands have no reason to meet them in hotel parking lots.

    HE BEAT HER IN BROAD DAYLIGHT….

    that should tell you all you need to know about why she insisted on the HOTEL PARKING LOT.

  5. When I think about Domestic Violence, I think about those in this community who lost their lives to the violence, i.e., the 5 young children who were killed on Fort Benning Rd. in Columbus, GA only a few years ago, a young woman who stabbed repeatedly off Clover Lane, and another woman (Lucille) stapped by someone who couldn’t control their rage. I think about Colette Williams killed by her boyfriend on Saint Mary’s Rd. He later committed suicide. I think about a Lakeisha Martin whose brother and his friend were killed by Brent Martin and her child and friends terrorized. When I think about survivors of Domestic Violence, I think about Charlotte Russell Johnson who wears the evidence of the abuse, and bravely penned the details in “A Journey to Hell & Back.” I think about the thousand of women and children who are still trapped in an abusive relationship. I think about those who will repeat the cycle because they believe abuse means love. I think about those whose self-esteem has been beaten beyond repair. I don’t think about Juanita Bynum. The half of that story has not been told. It takes more than a few days to recover from abuse and to gather the momentum to defiantly face you attacker. What she has become is the new face of “Embarrassment to the Christian Community.”

  6. ann1

    Latoya, I’m sad to say it, but it surely seems that way. Let’s just pray that Ms. Bynum will stop and spend time with the Lord. Let Him heal and restore her. Maybe it’s time for her to sit down for awhile. My sister was a victim of domestic violence for years which ultimately led to her death. She wanted to leave, but was beaten, not only was she threatened, but her husband, would also threaten anyone who tried to help her. She had four kids and really wasn’t financially able to get out of it. I’m not sure about Ms. Bynum’s financial status, but I would think being high profile, she would have been able to seek a place of refuge. I definitely do not believe that was the first time he put his hands on her. You don’t beat someone that severely the first time around. It usually starts with grabbing or pushing. Maybe Mr. Weeks has some form of information that could deem to be damaging to her ministry. I don’t want to get into speculation. It’s just so unbecoming to see two internationally known leaders of God battle it out so publicly. I might be wrong, but I just don’t believe she has received a total healing. I know she said she forgives him, but physical abuse doesn’t stop at that, it involves the spirit and soul of a person. The weapons of our warfare are not flesh and blood. Healing is definitely needed. Let’s just pray that if she’s not able to hear from God, that her spiritual mentor will pull her aside and tell her what she needs to do.

  7. Juanita admits in her statement, that it wasn’t the first time Weeks put his hands on her. Read her lawyer’s statement:

    “She loved her husband,” Walker said. “But she does feel it is necessary to stop the domestic violence and go on with the divorce.” (emphasis mine).

    I have to go with SB on this one – they used their marriage, it appears, for marketing purposes, and God was bound to expose that, because it wasn’t honoring Him.

    Did they have to have a $1 million dollar wedding?

    Did it have to be on TV like Princess Diana’s was?

    It’s been said that Juanita needs to sit down out of the spotlight and focus on spiritual and emotional healing, then she can come back with an uplifting message. What was up with her going to Oprah’s fundraiser for Obama?

  8. star1

    Juanita attending Oprah’s fundraiser has nothing to do with her Beat Down and Stomp by the hands & feet of her soon-to-be ex-husband. Frankly, I believe attending Oprah’s fundraiser may have been a good place to go. She is moving on with her life. Who are we to say how she is coping with her attack. Just because Weeks(the husband) wants her to sit down and shut up – doesn’t mean everyone else does. The best way to expose Domestic Violence is to be vocal–it’s been covered up long enough–especially in the Church House.
    Their marriage is over–in hindsight many people will have opinions on their “Teach me How to Love you” ministry after they got married–I simply believe – Juanita supported her husband in this (as a good wife should) but when she saw it was not right she stopped and got stomped for it. All in all I am glad it is over for both of them. I really agree with most of the comments but my goodness it was Bynum who left the marriage 3 months earlier. She put an end to this–which means she woke up. Many women are too late and it ends tragically. By the way, as a woman, I certainly have no problem with a million dollar televised wedding (Preacher or not) if you can get one then get it!! P.S. I read Thomas Weeks may try to counter the divorce by saying Juanita treated him cruel–How low will he go. This is just my thoughts.

  9. P.S. I read Thomas Weeks may try to counter the divorce by saying Juanita treated him cruel–How low will he go.

    Star1:

    Of course he’s going to try and dog her out in court. His gravy train left the station without him. While I’m glad she had the common sense to leave the marriage, all I was trying to say is that sometimes, you don’t need to be ostentatious to get your message across.

    Marriage is a serious business – a COVENANT (contract) that is not to be entered into lightly, or foolishly. Many times, we get caught up in the actual event or celebration (the wedding) without considering what goes down after the honeymoon. If they were serious about marriage (which is a covenant two people make before God and man), surely pre-marital counseling would have done much to expose these areas (like Weeks’ temper and tendency to resolve issues through force or violence), and I’m not saying that there was no counseling, because I don’t believe Juanita would go back on what she’s advised so many of us regarding marriage.

    Like you, I’m glad she left the marriage and is moving on, and maybe her appearance at Oprah’s fundraiser was actually an indication she’s not going to hide or run away from this issue, so maybe that was a good thing. I just wonder about how wise it was to…ah, hell, I can’t explain it – it’s just a sense I get that maybe she just needs to chill and come back strong, I guess.

  10. Isaac Robinson Jr

    May God continue to bless Juanita and Weeks, but we all have to pay for our sins, Brother Weeks is no exception. I pray that he will learn from this misstake.

    Agape

  11. Christians wake up! Jesus loves us like a father loves his children. Sisters, would your earthly father want you to stay with a man that beat you? How do you think Jesus, our Heavenly Father, feels about it?

  12. I know a man here in Denmark who did worse

    The prophetess might have been bitten and humiliated. But so was Jesus. Yet He forgave. We are told to look up to Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith. It might hurt, but the rewards for seeking reconciliation are greater than dvivorce. God hates divorce! I know a man in my church who had an incestuos relationship with his step-daughter. He ended in prison. We could never understand how the wife could ever take him back as her husband. But she did, on one ground that God had told her to, and forgave. That man has become a blessing to the church right now, knowing how much this forgiveness and acceptance meant for him. If she chooses to forgive, reconcile and go for counseling with her husband, I believe that it will be the greatest gift, and example for the body of Christ. That violence against women ministry seems like a revenge issue against a brother in Christ.

  13. Jesus was beaten and humiliated for us. He paid the price so that we would not have to! I, too, believe that Jesus wants us to forgive. Forgiveness is one thing; putting yourself back into a dangerous situation is something different. I still believe that both Bynum and Weeks, once repentant and forgiven, can and will be used by God. Whether or not God wants to use them together in ministry is not a call any of us can make.

  14. Flanker

    I do agree that Weeks beating up Bynum was wrong in all respects.
    I am not a huge fan of televesion evangelists anymore because when all these issues start happening its just so disheartening and confusing. (I hear Paula white is divorcing too)Yes I agree we should look unto Jesus our Saviour and not man but these people are leaders and somehow you look up to them as examples. (Paul says imitate me as I imitate Christ).I think there is something so missing in the church people.
    If what I heard about how they got be married is true, then probably that marriage was wrong from the start and I personally feel both of them knew it. Both of them I hope will find it in their hearts to forgive each other and move on with their lives if it has to come to that….

  15. jamaicagirl

    Plans to start a domestic violence ministry?! Give it a rest Juanita!Consolidate whatever ministries you have now and concentrate on the work! Ministries shouldn’t be started because we’re reacting to something that occurred, but because we’re “sent” sheesh!

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